Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
The subordinate clause "except . . " MUST be applied to all parts of the verse.
This allows a person whose spouse was involved in sexual sin and they were divorced to get remarried without stigma. Jesus allowed it. Paul allowed it.
DIVORCE, n. [L. See Divert.]
1. A legal dissolution of the bonds of matrimony, or the separation of husband and wife by a judicial sentence. This is properly called a divorce, and called technically, divorce a vinculo matrimonii.
Questions for Baptist Pastors:
1. When Jesus gave a judicial grounds for divorce (fornication), why do some assume the innocent party is guilty of adultery if they remarry?
2. If you pastor a church, would you perform the marriage ceremony of a member who is divorced for the cause of fornication?
3. As a pastor would you welcome a divorced couple into your fellowship?
Questions for ministers in the Church of Christ
Mar 16:16 He that believeth and is baptized shall be saved; but he that believeth not shall be damned.
1. Did Jesus say that he that believeth and is baptized shall be saved?
2. Did Jesus say "he that believeth not shall be damned?"
3. As ministers of the Church of Christ, do you damn everyone to hell that does not believe and is not baptized by you?
Question for those on this forum:
What is the difference in the logic used by Baptist preachers and ministers of the Church of Christ?
I'll spell it out for you. Not only did the Lord allow for fornication as a grounds for divorce and remarriage, but the apostle Paul gave further revelation to the Christian church that wasn't covered by our Lord during his earthly ministry.
In Romans 7:1-3 the apostle to the Gentiles lays out the fact that death is a grounds for remarriage.
In 1 Corinthians 7:10-11 Paul agrees exactly with what the Lord taught.
1Co 7:10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
1Co 7:11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.
In 1 Corinthians 7:12 Paul says: "But to the rest speak I, not the Lord:"
The apostle is saying that he is going to cover things not taught by the Lord during his earthly ministry. "Paul is claiming, not disclaiming, divine authority for his teaching. In fact, he is even boldly superseding a command given by God through Ezra to the Jews. After returning from their captivity in Babylon, the Jews had taken wives from the unbelieving people of the land, and God told them: “Separate yourselves from the people of the land, and from the strange [i.e., foreign] wives” (Ezra 10:11). In the Christian context, however, a Christian is commanded not to divorce a non-Christian spouse, as long as the latter is willing to remain in the marriage." - Henry Morris
If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
Paul goes from dealing with what the Lord rebuked the Pharisees for doing, which was allowing divorce for any reason (the hardness of their hearts), to giving the Corinthians guidelines for Christians that were deserted by an unbelieving spouse. Jesus plainly was dealing with the guilty party while Paul is dealing with the party that was wronged.
In verse 12 Paul is clearly talking about husband and wife. He explains to the Corinthians in verse 15 that "if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases:"
Those who say he is talking about a betrothal period are blatently dishonest or blinded by their own prejudices. I can read plain English and it is obvious Paul does not get into that until verse 25.
1Co 7:25 Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful.
If the apostle Paul was teaching false doctrine in these verses, the Holy Spirit would have told us. When Peter got caught up in heresy, the apostle Paul withstood him to his face to prevent error from coming into the church (Galations 2).
What amazes me is I know Baptist preachers that will stand behind a pulpit (upholding their standards)and declare that they will never marry anyone (even the innocent party ) that has been divorced, yet will tell them that if they let someone else perform the ceremony, they are welcome with open arms into the church fellowship!
They don't have enough Christian grace to be honest with those who have gone through such hurt. If they really believe the ones hurting from a divorce (a scriptural one) are committing adultery (which most Baptist pastors I know assume) why not be consistent and tell them that until they separate from their current spouse and return to the fornicating partner (who could have AIDS), the church will have no fellowship with them? By the way, I have been married to the same woman for the past 25 years and have no personal agenda.
It is no exaggeration that divorce has been made into the unpardonable sin in Baptist churches.